I am generally a pretty positive and happy person. I would say I'm positive about 85% of the time. I see life in a clear view and can see a bright future for myself. If I say, "I'm ALWAYS happy and never negative," well that's a blatant lie. No one can be happy all the time. It's impossible because we are human beings. With that said..
I wrote this post a couple weeks ago.. I have been debating on even posting it because it may hurt others feelings, but I'm posting it anyways. My feelings have been hurt too. It's life. So sorry in advance if it does. This also isn't directed towards any certain persons. It is just in general since day one of marriage.
Before I continue, let me remind you, this is MY blog, MY journal, and MY outlet to be creative, or to just vent. So if you don't like what you're reading, then stop now. I don't care.
Has anyone else without kids, been told time and time again, "Oh you're not a mom though, you don't understand."?
As a "newly wed" (1.5 years married) in the Mormon culture the thing that happens AS SOON as you get married is, "When's the baby due?" "Time to get it started!" "How come you aren't pregnant yet?" IT'S SO ANNOYING! I mean how insensitive are people these days?! I usually just laugh it off saying something like, "haha not yet." But sometimes I just want to say (and I have said it once..), "What if we are trying but we can't get pregnant?!" And boy did it shut them up and that particular person has yet to ask me again. It is like some people look at me only being 21 years "old", with no kids in sight or on the way, and think all my eggs have dried up! That doesn't make me feel good AT ALL. I then get all stressed out thinking I'm so old and that I'll be an old maid by the time I have kids, and that clearly is false!
For the record, D and I are not pregnant and are not trying to be because that's what WE want right now! And yes I get baby hungry from time to time but the timing isn't right for us. I am not old, I am young, I still have PLENTY of time to have children. Just let me enjoy this time with my husband. It is none of your business when we decide to start our family. It is between God, Dallan, and I.
I love kids, and I will have them someday but man, sometimes talking to newer moms just drives me nuts! They (not all new moms do this, but some) act like I don't know that babies are fragile, new, and their immune systems aren't fully developed. DUHHH! I wasn't born in a cave. I have been around enough babies in my lifetime, babysat 100 times and have taken many health classes to know a lot about the human body and about babies. I also understand that moms have a special bond with their babies. But how different can it really be from people who adopt or take care of another's child? I have a few little kids in my life that I love like they are my own. I would do anything for them. I feel this is the motherly nature of every women in this world to love any child that comes into their life whether they have felt them kick in the womb or not.
It just irks me! Obviously it is a hot spot for me.. Maybe I am a little jealous of new moms, but not only that but it is a CONSTANT question that bugs that crap out of me in the Mormon culture. I love my Church, it is a big part of who I am, but sometimes the culture drives me nuts.
So in the future, Please stop asking me! That would be greatly appreciated.
